I don’t blog nearly as much as I should. I have a lot to say and I have multiple outlets to utilize to say it, yet I find myself very rarely writing. Part of it is my mistake, I decided to turn this into a technology blog. I do a lot of technology based things and I work on a lot of projects, but the problem is, finding time to write about them. The other problem is, I’m not always writing for the viewer, sometimes I’m just writing for myself. It just becomes an issue because in this world of 20 and 30 somethings, we now have to watch our every move.
You never really know what employers are looking at when it comes to the things we do online. Our lives have become partial blips on maps. As open as we are, we try to keep things private. One would think that the Internet offers a level of obscurity and anonymity that we can utilize and be free because of it. Unfortunately thats not the case at all… We have to watch our every move, Facebook, Myspace, Linkedin, dating profiles, blogs… They can all come back to haunt you. As open and honest as you want to be, the Internet has a way of turning people into liars, even if it’s simply by omission.
Recently I took it upon myself to look up some old friends from when I was younger. I’ve tried a few times to find old childhood friends, but I never really gave it the effort it was needed. I can now say with certainty, if some aspect of your life is out on the Internet, there is somebody out there who can find you. I was able to find my old friend utilizing a multitude of websites. It helps to remember as much about them as possible. Siblings, parents names, old addresses if you can remember them, hobbies and interests. All of those will play a factor into if you’ll be able to find them. Begin with Googling the names and seeing if you get a hit, you can try the obvious Facebook and Myspace, but I’m going to assume you’ve already tried these avenues and were unsuccessful, don’t disregard Facebook completely, in the end it will be the most useful tool…
If you can remember a street name or a full address as well as a parents name, you will have the best luck with this one. You can utilize pipl.com or you can use spokeo.com to look into it. For me, I was able to remember this persons brothers names and their step mothers name. Once I began searching for the step mother, I was able to find her profile she made on a forum for the area they had moved to. I was hesitant to believe this was her, I was so close to finding my friend, but I needed to know for sure, I went to view the profile, but it required me to be a member. Thankfully Google cached the profile so I was able to view the cached page. Utilizing this, I was able to see the city they had moved to and verify the names of the siblings I remembered. I double checked this with spokeo.com. Sometimes if you are lucky, spokeo.com will be able to provide you with a family tree.
Once I was able to verify all this information, I went back to Facebook, punched in their name, specified city and state and found them in an instant. I sent them a message with the hopes of a response, but as it appears, I’ve probably been forgotten in the ether or time.